Who is for?
- website’s target population are adolescent, youth, adult and mature men who aspire towards personal growth and development.
- is a male-sensitive model of working with the emotions of men across the South African spectrum. Men who are interested in personal growth and development, healing and transformation may benefit from the services and resources of .
Some of the concerns that have been dealt with by include:
|Identity Concerns||Personal control issues||Meaning/Existential conflicts||Historical issues|
|Low self-esteem and feelings of shame||Addictions (substance, sexual, monetary)||Work and professional related meaning crisis||Unresolved attachment issues with caregivers|
|Lack of self-confidence||Impulsivity, obsessions||Lack of meaning in life||Physical, emotional and sexual abuse by parents and family members|
|Career/professional identity||Inability to express or extreme expressions of emotion, self-loathing and self-harm||Religious /ideological conflict/abuse||Childhood abandonment and rejection|
|Manhood, not feeling man enough, self-doubts about masculinity||Extremities of mood: depression, anxiety||Concerns about lack of love and belief beyond oneself (spirit and soul emptiness)||Father-son and mother son issues|
|Gender and sexual identity concerns, unwanted same-sex attraction||Anger, aggression and urgent recurrent fantasies of violating others. These may include domestic violence, rape fantasies, and thoughts of violating women and children||Quest to cultivate a practical spirituality: courage, humility, mindfulness||Family betrayal and other familial concerns|
is a platform:
- For men’s narratives about diverse personal issues pertinent to being a man in the world with self and others (leisure, work, career, family, personal transformation, etc.)
- For the promotion of non-erotic male to male attachments, bonding and networking
- On which to explore manhood concerns
- To promote men’s efforts to become better men
- For improved male self-awareness
- To explore male psycho-social concerns
- To promote, personal growth, self-transformation, and positive behavior change consistent with the male-code relevant to a particular man.
- site is also linked to a Facebook page, click here as well as the blog page African men and Masculinities hosted by professor Kopano Ratele, a masculinity specialist https://newafricanmen.wordpress.com/tag/kopano-ratele/. To communicate with us please call or send an email.
Purpose of the Men’s Group
The men’s group is a male friendly space in which men are deliberately separated from women to maximise personal growth and self-change.
Positive masculine qualities such as courage, honour, discipline and responsibility are celebrated while supporting each participant to access the human being inside the man. The group is structured to invite the whole person, not just the troubled parts. The competence and capacities of each participant are used to promote caring connections with others.
The aims of the group include:
- Improved self-awareness
- Freedom from destructive behaviours
- Genuine behaviour change
- Enhanced academic performance
- Intake is restricted to under 10 (< 10) participants per group to facilitate small group dynamics.
- Interested men are individually screened and selected on the basis of particular needs that the group was created to address, not on diagnosis or labelling.
Committed members agree to:
- Aparticipate in male bonding – i.e. men backing & contributing to each other’s transformation
- B profit from feedback, especially constructive criticism
- Crisk doing the kind of personal “work” that is usually avoided
Overview of the Group Process
Activities to ’break the ice’, building a culture of cooperation, trust and confidentiality, sharing common values, ground rules and clarification of group purpose take centre stage during initial phases of a new group. The major task of the group facilitator is the cultivation of a sense of belonging between members.
In the middle or working phase of the group process, the group dynamics expand to embrace the personalities and concerns of the entire group. As active participants members engage in self-disclosure benefitting from the engagement with peers and their own deepening self-insights.
As part of the closure process participants reflect and evaluate the goals that have been achieved. Members take turns to ‘show case’ their personal journey of change with the group sharing the meanings that the group experience has evoked for them.